Transform Your Child's Well-being with 12 Personalised Thinkology® Sessions

In just 12 weeks, witness remarkable transformations as your child embarks on a journey of self-discovery and emotional empowerment.

Through personalised one-to-one sessions, your child will:

  • Understand the Dynamics of Thoughts and Feelings: Gain insight into how thoughts, feelings, and emotions influence their reality.
  • Develop Self-Awareness: Learn to navigate their inner world with increased clarity and understanding.
  • Boost Confidence and Happiness: Experience a newfound sense of self-confidence and inner peace.
  • Reduce Anxiety: Say goodbye to overwhelming thoughts and physical symptoms of anxiety.
  • Enhance Communication: Improve parent-child communication with a shared understanding of emotions and thoughts.
  • Learn Self-Regulation: Develop skills to articulate their needs and manage their well-being effectively.

Transformations for Everyone: As your child thrives, so does your entire household. Experience reduced tension, stress, and negativity as harmony and balance are restored at home.

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I'm Nicola Henderson, and I'm The Thinkology® Coach

I am a mum of 2 neurodivergent boys and a wife to an amazing husband. 

I have taught Thinkology® as 1-1 coaching, as a parent and child led coaching and prior to Covid I was working in local schools facilitating workshops to primary and secondary children. 

It's such a powerful tool in understanding how our thinking works at an individual level. 

Our Everyday Thinkology® helps us to understand who we uniquely are and how we create our own experience within the world.

My clients become happier because they understand themselves and know that they can help themselves when they are stuck in unhelpful thinking.  

From anxiety and confidence issues, to emotional regulation difficulties, I address a range of challenges including:

  • Anxiety and Its Physical Effects: Helping children cope with symptoms such as nausea and headaches as well as school worries and friendship challenges.
  • Confidence and Self-Esteem: Supporting teens in navigating feelings of overwhelm and pressure to succeed.
  • Emotional Regulation: Assisting children in understanding and managing their emotions effectively.

"I get less angry, less anxious, less sad, less destructive (like breaking stuff). More happy, more positive, more Me. I feel like the best Me. I’ve learned that I'm a nicer person now that I was. I was very angry, always sad. You’ve helped me understand people get angry". - Anonymous, Primary 6 

How I Support Your Young Person

I don't use a one-size-fits all approach. I may use one or a mixture of the methods below to support your young person based on their needs and level of understanding, and always in an age-appropriate manner.

Teaching Self Awareness

When your child understands how their thoughts and thinking works, they are less inclined to focus on unhelpful thinking. They realize that what they focus on is what they experience more of.

Interactive Exercises

Engaging activities for your child such as 'thought' experiments and age-appropriate creative challenges using materials such as modelling clay to show how thought works and to reinforce learning by using practical techniques.

NLP and Visualisation

Harnessing the power of neuro-linguistic programming and visualization techniques to inspire positive thinking in a way that makes sense to your child at their level.

Somatic Techniques

Utilizing breathwork, reflexology-based methods, and touch exercises to reduce stress and anxiety that they have in the moment.

“The lessons came at the best time, a lot has happened and this has helped me get through it. I would have the lesson, and then I used what I learned to deal with things through the week. It was easier to deal with all the ‘stuff’." - Derri, Teenager

The Thinkology® approach doesn't just transform children; it empowers parents too.

As a parent, I know what it's like to feel helpless when it comes to dealing with our children's emotion issues.  We can read all the books and search the internet far and wide, but this often just makes it even more difficult to identify how we can really understand what our child needs.

The Thinkology® method is parent and child focused and through active participation and engagement, you will gain:

Insight and Understanding: You will gain valuable insights into your child's challenges and learning process.

Improved Communication: You will be able to foster open and positive communication around emotions and feelings.

Shared Bonding Experience: You'll experience a unique bonding journey through shared learning and understanding with your child.

Experience reduced tension, stress, and negativity as harmony and balance are restored at home.    

 

"I would highly recommending working with Nicola to help with anxiety; both me and my child have learned things that will help us forever." - Catherine

Everyday Thinkology® is different because it is child focused and tailored to your individual child’s needs and issues. 

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When I work with your child 1-1, I do not have a set of tick boxes and criteria that needs to be met.

Thinkology® takes it back to your individual child’s thinking.  How they work and how they understand their feelings and emotions. How their feelings and emotions are never stuck and helps them to learn about the power of their thinking.

The lessons focus on 3 key elements of thought/thinking.

⭐How thought is created the same for everyone.

⭐How your individual thoughts have been created and what you can do to ‘think’ better.

⭐How thought works for others and what we can understand from knowing about other people.

Alongside all of the ‘thought’ learning is a set of tools and techniques to change the thinking in the moment and also to reduce panic, stress and anxiety. These are somatic (body) exercises that help to reduce emotional stress in the body because we think things in our mind but we feel them in our body.

To help the mind we also need to process the feelings and emotions within our body.

Traditional methods of counselling and therapies usually focus on the mind/ emotions/ trauma and miss out on the body part. We think things in our mind but we feel them within our body.

Everyday Thinkology® helps your child and you to have self-awareness and gives you the tools that can be used throughout your whole life.

When you think better, you feel better.

Change Begins Here

 

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“I learned different ways to deal with problems and it worked better than what I normally do. The glasses lesson helped because we learned that it depended on how people were feeling and how to deal with it. ”

Primary 6

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“I feel more free, like whatever has been holding me back has finally left. I feel like I can handle my emotions easier and in consequence have a larger and stronger driving force getting me through life. It has helped me find my wings and I am ready to fly”

Teenager

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“I feel that we can move forward and deal with things as they arise, and that we are both on the same page – I’m using the words and language that Nicola used with her, so that helps my daughter remember what she has been taught and makes it easier for her to use the learning she has.”

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What Do We Do Over 12 Weeks Together?

    • 12x30 minute zoom sessions with your child. These are interactive sessions, where we will do thought experiments, look at tools and techniques  for calming the nervous system and use the information gained in parent calls to tailor make the lesson to what your child is experiencing that week.
    • 12x weekly check-in calls with you.  This is to provide information on what is happening in your child’s life that week.  The information will be used to tailor make the session to your child’s needs in the moment and to use any experiences or events that have happened that week to make it more personalized.

  • Support and guidance for you (parent) available via WhatsApp for anything that arises within the 12 weeks
  • Thinkology® Box - a box provided with all the tools your child will need for lessons, including a Thinkology® journal.
  • Support via the weekly check-ins for you - to support the parent who is dealing with their child’s challenging behaviours,  to look at challenges and help with solutions to any  issues that arise
  • Feedback on how your child is progressing

"I learned not to hit my brothers anymore or I learned not to throw a tantrum just listen to my thoughts and feelings." - Naomi, Primary 6

Our Commitment To You

Commitment 1

At the end of the our 12 weeks together, you and your child will have learned lots of new information, all about your thoughts and thinking. 

Commitment 2

You will have improved communication with your child and a shared language around thoughts and thinking that you can apply to any challenging situation.
Commitment 3
Your child will gain an understanding of tools and techniques for managing their emotional challenges. They will have gained confidence in their ability to use these techniques as and when needed.

FAQ

Any Questions?

These are the most common questions I get asked, but if there's something not answered for you - you can ask me HERE.

Yes.  Thinkology increases self-awareness and teaches an understanding of how anxiety is created from your thinking. We think things with our mind, and then we feel them in our body.  The understanding helps your child to realise when anxiety or anxious states are happening and it helps them to shift or change their focus to reduce the anxious thinking. There are also tools and techniques for reducing anxiety as it arises.

The everyday thinkology course teaches your child about their thinking and also how others may be thinking and feeling too.  The lessons around how other people view the world differently to us and how we are not always experiencing the same thinking as others are really helpful in achieving a reduction in stress around peer relationships.
After completing the course, I hope that your child will have increased confidence and self-esteem and have an awareness about other people too.  Dealing with others becomes easier when they realise that they may not see the world in the same way as the people that they are dealing with on a daily basis.
I have found that the main issue with school is the child's anxiety that has been created about the school situation. Reducing the anxiety and having coping strategies definitely help to reduce this.  Also, throughout the lessons, you will have gained a deeper understanding of your child's thinking and what is creating the anxiety around the situation. This is helpful in addressing any issues around school.
Absolutely.  Everything comes from thought and Confidence and self-esteem are created from within. We cannot have a feeling or emotion without having the thinking first!   Thinkology teaches your child how to create more confidence and build self-esteem with the power of their thinking.
I believe that learning Thinkology can help every child. Neurodivergent children do experience life very differently to neurotypical children. However, they can all benefit from being more self-aware and confident and have the ability to manage their own emotions. I have 2 neurodivergent children so recognise and understand some of the challenges that your child will be experiencing.


More about Me!

My main passion in life is to teach children all about their thoughts and thinking.

I have worn many hats over the years. Nanny in the USA, History student, Offshore stewardess, Kindergarten assistant are some of the most significant ones.  I always had a dream to be a teacher and trained as a Steiner Waldorf teacher prior to having children.

I decided to change my career path after having my boys and I trained as a Coach, NLP practitioner and Hypnotherapist.  The training really helped me personally as I was going through some challenging times with my oldest son.  I was experiencing Anxiety and low self-confidence and he was also having issues related to his ASD.

There were very limited resources available to help my son and myself. I couldn't access any support or counselling that was child focused, or even ones that could help my child to understand just where his anxiety was coming from. 

This is when I decided to focus solely on children's wellbeing coaching.

Soon after, I was introduced to a different approach to mental health and emotional well-being. 

This training looked at mindset and emotional well-being from a perspective that any feeling, emotion or behaviour all begins in thought.  This understanding totally transformed my own life and my mindset and had a huge affect on my children too.

It freed me from anxiety and negative self talk and set me on a path that has lead to the creation of Thinkology ®.


Transformation Starts Here